Good Morning Everyone,
Our theme for this month: “Boundaries”
Our Bible verse for today: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
Our thought for today: “We must have boundaries to protect our heart.”
In their book “Boundaries” Henry Cloud and John Townsend help us to understand what a boundary looks like and when one is needed. They write of how physical boundaries are easily discernable because they are visible. So whether we’re talking about a fence, a wall, a hedge, or a moat filled with alligators, it’s easy to determine where the boundary is and whether or not it’s ok to cross it.
Spiritual boundaries are a little tougher to discern but can actually be even more important than physical ones. Take the heart for example. In Proverbs 4:23 Solomon warns us of the need to guard it. We have to erect boundaries and make decisions about who or what gets into our heart, and then how deeply.
In one section of the book they write about knowing the difference between “Me and Not Me”. They explain that a good boundary helps me to understand where I end and where someone else begins. It helps me to know what issues and problems I do own, and therefore am responsible for, and what is not mine.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t care and it doesn’t mean that we won’t help. But we all know people who do in fact want us to own their problems. They want us to buy into and even take responsibility for their stuff. But that’s where the distinction between “Me and Not Me” becomes so important. What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours. I can help you with your problems and you can help me with mine, but we each need to own what is ours.
Such boundaries give us the freedom to say, “I love you and I care about you, and I will even help you (to a reasonable degree and without crossing the line into enabling bad behavior), but I cannot live your life for you and I will not own your problems.”
Make sure you guard your heart because it is the spring from which all of the rest of life flows. When we allow people and their issues into our heart we quickly become involved at an emotional level. That’s ok, to a degree. But we do need to be smart about who we will allow in like that, and how deeply. Remember, no matter how much you love someone and how much you care about them (and even in those cases where some help is appropriate) you can’t live their life for them and you should not own their problems.
God Bless,
Pastor Jim
Oak Hill Baptist Church 