Devotional for Saturday and Sunday December 6-7

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light.” Luke 16:8 (NIV)

 

Our thought for today: “We must be smarter in how we deal with this issue of sexual ethics.”

 

In 1987 President Bill Clinton, under great pressure from Congress and from the American people, signed into law the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). This law affirmed that marriage is between one man and one woman. At that time the leaders of the Gay and Lesbian Agenda conceded defeat and publically lamented that their quest to legalize same-sex marriage was lost.

 

However shortly after that, Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen wrote a book entitled “After the Ball: How America Will Conquer Its Fear and Hatred of Gays in the ‘90s”. In this book Kirk and Madsen declared that the cause was not lost at all, the Gay community simply needed a new strategy. Up to this point the movement had been unorganized, lacked focus, and they came across as militant and angry. Therefore not only were they ineffective but they were scaring people.

 

The authors urged their readers to first of all, modify their speech. Gays needed to come across as kind, compassionate, soft-spoken and gentle – in short, non-threatening. Second, they needed to go to great lengths to portray homosexual relationships as normal and natural – no different really, from heterosexual relationships. Then, they needed to recruit allies in the arts and media to help promote their cause. Then, they needed to portray themselves as victims of discrimination and unfair treatment. And finally, they needed to keep promoting their message at every opportunity because if you say something often enough, eventually people begin to conclude it must be true.  Also, facts are no match for a compelling story. So promote the cause by telling lots and lots of heart-warming stories about same-sex families.

 

As we all know, their strategy worked perfectly. In only twenty-five years the situation has been almost entirely reversed. DOMA is no longer the law and in many states same-sex marriage is now legal, celebrated, and promoted as normal and natural.

 

Is there a lesson in this for the Church? Sadly, yes. The Gay and Lesbian leaders have been smarter about this than we have. While they were being kind and compassionate, many of us were being cold, hard, and dogmatic. While they were telling funny and heart-warming stories, we were pounding pulpits and calling down hellfire and brimstone. While they were drawing people in with their message, we were alienating people with ours – which was the exact opposite effect that Jesus had most of the time. Jesus spoke words of truth without compromise, and yet because of His loving and winsome manner, people flocked to be near Him.

 

It is absolutely essential that we do not compromise doctrine. But it is equally essential that we present the truth in love and not in anger. In a gentle and kind way, we must help people to see that the Biblical way is the best way. Tomorrow we will discuss ways the church can do this.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Friday December 5th

Good Morning Everyone,

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

Our Bible verse for today: “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness, who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.” Isaiah 5:20 (HCSB)

Our thought for today: “They have reversed society’s understanding of good and bad, of right and wrong.”

In America the cultural norms for acceptable sexual ethics were pretty stable for most of our history. From the days of the pilgrims right up through the 1950’s, the Biblical standard for sexual behavior was overwhelming accepted and mostly unquestioned. The sexual revolution of the hippie years initiated the beginnings of a cultural shift, but it has only been in the last twenty-five years that the Biblical standard has been directly challenged on the national level.

Dr. Albert Mohler, the President of Southern Seminary, helps us to understand what has happened. He refers to the work of British philosopher Theo Hobson who developed a theory regarding how to initiate a moral revolution within a culture. Dr. Hobson taught that in order to bring about a moral revolution in a culture there are three basic steps or phases which must be deliberately passed through. First, the moral beliefs and behaviors which used to be condemned must now be celebrated. Second, the moral beliefs and behaviors that used to be celebrated must now be condemned. And third, those who refuse to celebrate the new moral standards and behaviors must also be condemned. This is exactly what has happened in our society with respect to sexual ethics.

Dr. Mohler explains that moral revolutions of the kind described by Theo Hobson have occurred at various times in different societies throughout history, but never at the speed with which it is occurring in our society today.

Also, this didn’t happen by accident. As we will see tomorrow, the architects of this seismic cultural shift were extremely thoughtful and intentional. Their approach was exactly what Theo Hobson’s theory described. Fortunately, their strategy was thoroughly documented and widely published. We should thank them for their openness and transparency because their strategies, which worked so well and which brought all of us to where we are today, actually provide an excellent roadmap for us, the Christian church, as we develop our own strategies for dealing with this going forward.

Again I want to encourage you to not lose heart. All is not lost, the last word on the issue has not been spoken, and the outcome is not a foregone conclusion. As time passes, societies go through cultural shifts. The changes come, they stay for a while, and then things change again. But when it’s all said and done Jesus is still on the Throne and it is His Kingdom that remains and which continues to grow. In the long run, God always wins.

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Thursday December 4th

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “But I tell you, everyone who looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “Pornography is a sin”

 

I remember when I was a young boy in the late 50s and early 60s that women’s underwear ads were rare and a bit controversial. I have to admit that I did look for them in the Sunday ads in the newspaper (but I always felt a little guilty if I found one).

 

Today naked women adorn the covers of magazines at the check-out counters in most stores; steamy love scenes are regular fare on television shows during the “family” hour; and sexy models in Victoria’s Secret lingerie sell everything from beer to bacon.

 

Journalist Pamela Paul says that we now live in a “pornified” culture. I think she’s right. The glorification of sex has overwhelmed us. It’s everywhere. We are over-sexed. You would think that when something becomes so overdone, so pervasive, we would become desensitized to it. Apparently the exact opposite is true. As a nation we seemed to be obsessed with sex and our appetite for evermore explicit sexual images seems to be continually increasing.

 

The stuff that previous generations considered “hardcore”, such as Playboy magazine, is considered pretty tame by today’s standards. Today the hardcore stuff comes to us over the internet and it is seriously hardcore. We’re talking about gay-porn, child-porn, group sex, bestiality, and more.

 

Statistics vary but they suggest that somewhere around 60% of men view pornography on a regular basis. One study I saw recently said that perhaps 50% of men “in the church” view pornography at least once a month and 20% of pastors admitted to it!  And women are not exempt. Those same studies tell us that 20-25% of women admit to viewing pornography once or more a month.

 

Pornography is not innocent. Jesus taught in Matthew 5:28 that imagining yourself in the commission of a sinful act is effectively no different than actually committing the sinful act. As far as He is concerned, if you imagined yourself doing it then you did do it.

 

As the people of God we are exhorted to be holy because God is holy. We are to strive for purity in thought, word, and deed. Paul wrote, “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable – if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise – dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8 (HCSB).

 

Pornography pollutes the mind, diminishes purity, and corrupts character. As Christians we must be intentional about safeguarding our mind and heart from the pornographic images and suggestions that have become so much a part of the culture we live in.
 
Tomorrow, as we begin to draw our study to a close, we will consider some actions and strategies we can all take to honor God and to effectively engage our culture in this area of sexual ethics.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Wednesday November 3rd

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “For you have had five husbands, and the man you have now is not your husband.” John 4:18 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “Cohabitation is not an acceptable alternative to marriage.”

 

Cohabitation simply means “to live together as spouses when not legally married.” When a man and woman live together sharing a home and a bed, but without being legally married, they are cohabitating. This is also sometimes referred to as a “common-law marriage.”

 

In John 4:18 Jesus was in a conversation with a Samaritan woman. As the verse indicates, she had been married and divorced numerous times and was at that time living with a man she was not married to. The implication of Jesus’ words was that it was wrong for her to be doing so. In the “MacArthur Study Bible” pastor John MacArthur explains:

 

“She was living conjugally with a man whom Jesus said was not her husband. By such an explicit statement, our Lord rejected the notion that when two people live together it constitutes marriage. Biblically, marriage is always restricted to a public, formal, official, and recognized covenant.”

 

In our sexually liberated society cohabitation has become increasingly common. Estimates vary widely but it is generally agreed that as many as 30% of young couples these days will live together for some period of time prior to marrying. There are many reasons for it. Sometimes they believe that living together will help them gauge whether or not a marriage will be successful. Interestingly however, studies show that couples who live together first and then marry, end up divorcing at a higher rate than those who don’t cohabitate first.

 

Sometimes people cohabitate because the woman has children already and she is receiving various forms of public assistance such as food stamps and subsidized housing. The concern is that if she were to marry, some or all of the public assistance would stop. We sometimes find older couples cohabiting for a similar reason. A widow or widower may be receiving survivor’s benefits from the retirement plan of a deceased spouse and often there is provision that if the person remarries, the benefits are reduced or stopped.

 

There can be many rationalizations for cohabiting but a Christian cannot escape the fact that the Bible does not allow for it. Even in those cases where there are very real financial considerations, we must make a decision to honor the Lord and then trust Him to take care of us. In Matthew 6:25-33 Jesus made it clear that our Father is fully aware of all our needs and He will provide for us. Our part is to “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” Matthew 6:33

 

Tomorrow we will consider the problem of pornography. Then we will spend several days concluding our study of sexual ethics by discussing strategies and actions Christians and the Church can take as we continue to live-out our faith amidst the seismic shift that is occurring in our society.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Tuesday December 2nd

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “Why, my son, would you be infatuated with a forbidden woman or embrace the breast of a stranger?” Proverbs 5:20 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “Sex outside of marriage is sin.”

 

As a teenager I grew-up during the height of the hippie movement. That was the “free love” generation. The idea was that love was the answer to the world’s problems and if we would all just be more intentional and less inhibited about expressing love, the problems of the world would magically melt away.

 

Although lip service was paid to the value of kindness and compassion, the primary expression of “free love” was “free sex”. There was a popular Rock and Roll group by the name of “Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young” who had a hit song with the chorus, “If you can’t be with the one you love then love the one you’re with.” And so we did.

 

Eventually the hippies grew-up, got jobs and had kids, and the hippie movement faded away. But the free love movement did not. Instead it morphed into a culture of casual sex which is still very much alive and well in our society today. Among young people it’s known as “hooking up”. This is the notion that guys and girls who have an attraction to each other can “hook up” for a sexual encounter without being encumbered by any commitments which extend beyond the moment. 

 

There is another mindset which exists among adults across age groups which is known as “friends with benefits”. These are men and women who are close friends and who have no romantic feelings for each other, but who come together from time to time to meet each other’s sexual needs. Once the encounter is over their friendship continues as before, but still with no romantic feelings and certainly no commitments.

 

All of the sexual relationships just described are clearly outside the Biblical sexual ethic established by God of one man and one woman in a committed lifelong marriage. They are unbiblical and therefore sinful. Beyond that, casual sex is destructive. The sex act was intended by God to be a holy moment of intimacy shared by a husband and wife. Casual sex cheapens the sex act and undermines the sanctity of traditional marriage. Additionally, casual sex transmits disease. Sexually transmitted disease (STD) is a major health issue today. But it’s easy to avoid contracting a STD – simply marry a person who doesn’t have one and then never have sex with anyone else.

 

As the Church we must boldly and confidently preach, teach, and promote the Biblical model. Then we must practice it ourselves. We must be the champions of traditional Biblical marriage. The culture should be able to look to the church to see examples of healthy married couples and celibate singles who honor God in their sexual lives.

 

Tomorrow we will consider the issue of cohabitation. Is living together without being married ok?

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Monday December 1st

Good Morning Everyone,

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

Our Bible verse for today: “A woman is not to wear male clothing, and a man is not to put on a woman’s garment, for everyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord your God.” Deuteronomy 22:5 (HCSB)

Our thought for today: “We are to present ourselves as the gender God created us to be.”

Although Deuteronomy 22:5 is an Old Testament prohibition given to the nation of Israel, and although it is included in a long list of other prohibitions which no longer pertain to the people of God in this day, this one does. It still applies today because it is consistent with the Biblical sexual ethic that God created us as male and female and He intends for us to conduct ourselves within the boundaries of those gender identities.

The editors of the Holman Christian Standard Study Bible are helpful: “For a woman to wear male clothing and a man a woman’s garment (cross-dressing or transvestitism) is wrong because, among other things, it violates the principle of separation that God has built into the created order.”

For the sake of clarity some definitions are needed here. The terms “transgender” and “transsexual” are often used interchangeably and mean, “Appearing as or having undergone surgery to become a member of the opposite sex.”

An important note here is that a person’s decision to present themselves as a member of the opposite sex, either by means of clothing or surgery, is based on feelings not biology. The individual has a desire to present themselves as a member of the opposite sex and then takes steps to do so. There is no medical evidence proving such desires and feelings are biologically driven.

There is a very rare biological condition known as “intersex” whereby an individual is born with a mix of both male and female biological characteristics. These could include mixed genitalia, a mix of both male and female chromosomes, or internal reproductive anatomy that doesn’t match external features. These conditions are rare. Typically parents and doctors make a sex assignment at birth and the individual is then raised with that gender identity. Interestingly though, in the vast majority of these cases there is no gender confusion experienced and the individual goes through life comfortable with their assigned gender identity. Therefore such cases rarely enter into the transgender / transsexual debate.

Culturally, transgender issues are being lumped right in with the rest of the Gay Rights Agenda. Many municipalities and school districts are considering legislation to allow transgender people to utilize the dressing rooms, locker rooms, and rest rooms for the gender they identify as. Conceivably this could mean that a 14 year old boy (with all the sexual equipment of a 14 year old boy) who is feeling pretty today and therefore decides to wear a dress to school, would be allowed to use the girls locker room and the girls rest room – right alongside your 14 year old granddaughter. Folks his stuff is real, it’s actually happening.

Transgender issues are similar to same-sex attraction in that the desires are real and they run deep. As Christians our response needs to be the same. With respect and kindness, but also with confidence and boldness, we must insist that transgender desires, along with all other unbiblical desires human beings experience, can and should be brought under the control of the Holy Spirit.

We have two more “sexual ethics” issues to consider – cohabitation and casual sex, and then we will conclude our study by considering strategies and actions the Christian community can and must take. Take heart – all is not lost!

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Saturday and Sunday November 29-30

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “They are a nation without sense; there is no discernment in them. If only they were wise and would understand this and discern what their end will be!” Deuteronomy 32:28-29 (NIV)

 

Our thought for today: “The long-term impact of same-sex marriage on society cannot be good.”

 

In some respects it’s impossible to accurately forecast what the long-term impact of legalized same-sex marriage will have on our society. However since it’s obviously contrary to the expressed will of God we have to conclude that the impact will be bad. But how bad and in what ways remains to be seen.

 

Historically virtually all societies have recognized the value and importance of the traditional family structure. When a father, mother, and children constitute a stable family unit it creates a safe and nurturing environment for children to grow; the more of those family units that exist in a society, the stronger and more stable that society tends to be. That’s simple, observable, and well documented history and the vast majority of sociological studies conducted on the issue have confirmed it.

 

Dr. Glenn Stanton, the director of Global Family Formation Studies at Focus on the Family, writes that despite the high divorce rate among heterosexual couples in America, marriage between a man and a woman is still by far the most stable home environment for children. He notes that in Scandinavia, perhaps the most gay-friendly place in the world, studies have revealed that relationships between same-sex male’s break- up at twice the rate of heterosexual marriages, and same-sex female relationships break-up at twice the rate of male/male pairings. Although everyone can point to some same-sex relationships which have endured, the research is conclusive that overall, same-sex relationships break-up at a rate far higher than heterosexual relationships. Therefore same-sex family structures in general provide an unstable environment in which to raise children.

 

It will probably be another fifty years before accurate assessments can be conducted to determine what impact the legalization of same-sex marriage ultimately had on our society. But of course by then it will be too late, the impact will have already occurred. Because legalized same-sex marriage is something entirely new in the history of the human race, there simply is no historical precedent we can study which can be used to help us gauge where this is likely to lead or what effect it will have on society.

 

What we do know is that same-sex marriage is contrary to God’s design and therefore the outcome cannot be good. Tomorrow we will consider the transgender / transsexual issue.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim  

Devotional for Friday November 28th

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “Therefore God delivered them over in the cravings of their hearts to sexual impurity, so that their bodies were degraded among themselves. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie …” Romans 1:24-25 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “Gay marriage is a cultural trend which is contrary to the Word of God and to the history of the human race.”

 

Perhaps what’s most frustrating about the current cultural trend to propagate and normalize same-sex marriage is the dishonest way in which it is being promoted. Advocates for gay marriage portray it as benign, harmless, and even natural. They express bewilderment that any right-minded and reasonable person would object to it.

 

What is left unsaid is that no society ever, at any point in human history, has even suggested that same-sex pairings are the same as marriage between a man and a woman. Never mind legalizing such couplings and establishing them as a cultural norm, in the history of the human race no society has ever even considered equating homosexual relationships on par with a marriage between a man and a woman.

 

This is an important point. What’s being promoted in our day as normal, natural, benign, and harmless – and the inevitable next step in the evolution of the human race, is actually something entirely new in the history of mankind. Legalized and normalized “marriage” between two people of the same sex is a seismic cultural shift unlike anything that has ever happened before.

 

The proponents of gay marriage should at least be honest in the way they portray it. This is not an updated version of the Walden’s. This is not Norman Rockwell for 2014. This is more like “A Brave New World”. If people of previous generations could have gazed into a crystal ball and seen our cultural condition today they would have been shocked.

 

There can be no question that a marriage between two people of the same sex is contrary to God’s design. The Bible could not be clearer on the subject. So why is God allowing this to occur? Romans 1:24-25 explains it well. God made Himself clear on the issue. If society is going to forge ahead anyway with something that is obviously contrary to His expressed will, He will allow it to happen and He will then allow that society to suffer the consequences of its choices.

 

Tomorrow we will consider what some of those consequences could be.

 

God Bless,

Pastor Jim

Devotional for Wednesday November 26th

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “Same-sex marriage cannot be Biblically justified.”

 

In Ephesians 5:31 Paul quoted and therefore affirmed the words of Moses in Genesis 2:24. These identical words also appear in Matthew 19:5 and Mark 10:7-8. Additionally, Malachi 2:15 and 1 Corinthians 6:16 express the exact same thought using only slightly different words. The same point made six times. Do you think God might have been trying to tell us something?

 

As noted yesterday, there simply is no verse or passage in the Bible which can in any way be made to imply that a marriage between two people of the same gender is ok with God. It is not. Six passages specifically state the God-ordained Biblical model of marriage as being between one man and one woman for a lifetime. Six other passages directly forbid same-sex sexual relations of any type under any circumstances.

 

In the book, “God and the Gay Christian? – A response to Matthew Vines”, Professor of Biblical studies at Boyce College Denny Burk contributed an essay which addressed this issue. In his essay Professor Burk wrote that Biblical marriage must be reflective and symbolic of the gospel (as described by Paul in Ephesians 5:22-31.) The imagery is clearly and intentionally male/female, husband/wife. But there is no way same-sex marriage can be made to fit that model. Burk also notes that:

 

“Jesus defines the marriage covenant in Matthew 19 as a monogamous heterosexual union.”

 

Since there clearly is no Biblical sanction for a marriage between two people of the same gender, and since the Bible is the foundation and guide for all of Christian thought, belief, and practice, it becomes unthinkable for a Bible-believing Christian to endorse or promote gay marriage. To do so would be to disregard the clear teaching of Scripture.

 

Therefore, since we now know there is no Biblical justification for same-sex marriage we realize that if there is any rationale for it at all, that rationale would have to be cultural. Are there good cultural reasons to endorse, encourage, promote, and even legalize gay marriage?  We will discuss the cultural dimensions of it tomorrow.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim

Devotional for Tuesday November 25th

Good Morning Everyone,

 

Our theme for this month: “Sexual Ethics”

 

Our Bible verse for today: “Haven’t you read,” He replied, “that He who created them in the beginning made them male and female,” and He also said: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become on flesh?” Matthew 19:4-5 (HCSB)

 

Our thought for today: “The Bible makes no provision for same-sex marriage”

 

Gay marriage is one of the most contentious and difficult cultural issues facing Christians today. It is already legal in many states and the speculation is that in 2015 it may become the law of the land nationwide. How should a Bible-believing Christian think about and respond to this issue?

 

First, at this point in our study it should be abundantly clear that the Bible makes no provision for same-sex marriage. As has already been clearly demonstrated, the Biblical standard for all expressions of human sexuality is the pre-sin standard established by God in Genesis chapter two and reaffirmed by Jesus in Matthew chapter nineteen. The standard is one man and one woman committed to each other in a lifelong marriage. This was also affirmed by both Paul and Peter in Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Peter 3:1-7.

 

In an effort to weaken the argument that the Biblical standard is limited to only one man and one woman, some advocates of gay marriage point to the fact that polygamy was practiced by some of the Old Testament patriarchs such as Abraham and Jacob. Therefore since polygamy involves more than just one man and one woman, other combinations must be ok too.

 

But nowhere in the Bible is polygamy endorsed. And in every case (especially with Jacob), we read that it produced numerous family problems. In the Old Testament, polygamy was a practice some of the Jews engaged in for a brief period in their history, but it was never God’s original design. Beyond that, there is no evidence of it in the New Testament at all.  Also, in Ephesians 4:21-31 the Apostle Paul writes in a critical manner regarding the results of Abraham’s polygamy.

 

There can be no question that the Biblical standard for marriage involves one man and one woman in a committed relationship for life. That was God’s original design and it is affirmed in the New Testament. That means there cannot be a Biblical justification for gay marriage and that should answer the question for Bible-believing Christians. That then reduces the question to a cultural one.  

 

We will discuss the cultural dimensions of gay marriage but before we do, tomorrow we need to think a little more about the Biblical case for traditional marriage. This is an important issue which needs a little further exploration because in our day more and more Christians, especially young ones, are coming to the unbiblical conclusion that gay marriage might just be ok. But it isn’t and the Bible is clear on that point.

 

God Bless,
Pastor Jim