Our theme for this month: “Changing the tone of the conversation”
Our Bible verse for today: “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.” Colossians 4:6 (CSB)
Our thought for today: “The tone of your speech reveals the level of your confidence.”
Yoda is one of my heroes. That wise little gnome from the Star Wars movies was always so calm and so sure of himself! He was thoughtful and wise and in control of his emotions. Profound wisdom seemed to radiate from him in waves as he gently guided young Luke to deeper insights and greater understanding.
No matter the situation Yoda never got ruffled or agitated because Yoda was confident. He knew what he believed and why he believed it, and he had the patience to help others see the wisdom of his words. He didn’t feel as if he needed to force his perspective on others, he simply stated his case, kindly and gently attempted to persuade them, and then gave them time and room to learn for themselves.
Mr. Miyagi, the kind and gentle teacher from the movie “The Karate Kid” was the same way. I have great respect and admiration for people who are confident enough to be calm and kind no matter the situation. They are that way because they are confident in what they know and in their abilities.
Generally the less sure a person is of their position the more likely they are to get agitated when others disagree with them. When someone has a weak position and they know it that often makes them unsure of themselves. As they try harder and harder to make their case, their words will get stronger, their voice will get louder, and they will often resort to silly clichés or disparaging remarks. Someone who is sure of him or herself doesn’t need to do that.
I recently saw a report on the television news of a confrontation between two high government officials. One of them was harsh and aggressive in his speech and demeanor. The other was calm and reasoned. As the exchange went back and forth it quickly became clear that the calm one was confident and the angry one was not. The calm one appeared sure of himself and he was in control. The other one seemed agitated and he was struggling.
In Colossians 4:6 Paul writes that as Christians we should be gracious with our words. He also says that our words should be “seasoned with salt”. That means that they should be Biblically wise. We should speak words of wisdom, and we should do so graciously.
The tone of your speech often reveals the level of your confidence. If you are sure of yourself you will be in control of your emotions and that will enable you to be rational, reasonable, and calm as you make your case.